7 Steps to Getting Your S#!% Together and Focusing on Success

nicole_glesinger_massamio“The golden opportunity you are seeking is in yourself. It is not in your environment, it is not in luck or chance, or the help of others; it is in yourself alone.” – Orison Swett Marden

Let’s get real with each other. 100% Honest. Cut the BS. Can we do that?

This is your life and it’s time to start living your life on purpose and taking your life seriously.

I would like to offer you some practical exercises, from my own experience, on how to stay focused day to day while running your independent massage therapy practice. As you read this article, keep an open mind and be honest with yourself.

1. Reflect and Take Stock of Your Life

In this moment, how do you feel emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually? At this point in your life, are you where you want to be? Are you who you want to be? If not, why do you think that is the case?

*Introspection Moment*

  • What does success mean for you?
  • What are your goals?
  • Are you prioritizing them and following through?

There are so many things vying for your attention. What is keeping you from achieving those goals? How badly do you want to achieve these goals?

Do the following distractions hold you hostage?

  • Facebook (my personal weakness)
  • Video games
  • Internet
  • TV shows
  • Family obligations & Friends
  • Lethargy
  • Lack of self-discipline
  • Negative attitude

Distractions keep you from completing the smaller tasks that lead to your bigger goals. You can’t just open your business and expect clients to come your way. You have to change your priorities, know your goals, refocus them, be an example for your clients, change your life and be at your very best every day.

2. Home Environment

I strongly believe that in order to be successful we need a safe, secure, positive, peaceful refuge to call home. It’s so important to be able to come home and relax. To come home to someone that will make your day better and easier by uplifting your spirit with encouragement, love, & support.

Not in that position right now? Then at the very least, if you have a choice, don’t live w/a person who hinders your progress.

Examples: Drama Queens, Pessimists, Inconsiderate, Selfish or Disrespectful people.

Personal house-cleaning may be in order. Clear out or distance those who are distracting or hindering your progress & goals. This doesn’t mean you don’t love or care for those people in your life. It does means you love & respect yourself enough to put your life, your happiness first. It isn’t easy but it is necessary.

Yes, I have had to limit interactions with certain family members and friends. My personal and professional life has flourished since making these changes. Establishing healthy boundaries is super duper important. You’ll feel better for it.

3. Self-Accountability

Take responsibility for where you are in your life. Every choice you’ve ever made has either directly or indirectly led you to where you stand today.

4. Self-Care

What you see is what you get with me. I can’t fake a smile or a good mood. If I’m pissed off you’ll know it. You’ll see it in my face and hear it in my voice. Certain family members call it “Diarrhea of the face.”

That means I do everything in my power to take care of myself. For example I sleep A LOT, go to yoga, get lots of quiet time, 1-2 massages per week, and I’m super careful with my diet. High maintenance, right? The point is.. I do whatever it takes to put myself in my happy place so I can be at my best with clients.

5. Make Lists and Get Organized

Don’t overwhelm yourself with everything that needs to get done.

Instead prioritize the most important tasks and do those first. Remember, “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace.” Do your best and let knowing that you’ve done your best be enough. Use this helpful form: Productivity Jump Starter

Free planners from here will help you plan out your week and month.

6. Attitude

Achieve your greatest potential by monitoring your attitude. Your attitude dictates your expectations, your experiences, and the expression on your face. Look for the best in people but prepare for the worst. Do not assume anything. If people, experiences or stuff in general work out well, then that’s great. However, if they go the opposite direction, that’s fine too.

Don’t let your fear of not succeeding squash your will to try. There will be moments when you’ll want to give up and quit. But, if you keep on truckin’ slowly but surely you’ll get there to that place called success.

Practice gratitude in your everyday life. It will change your whole perspective of the world. Keep a daily gratitude journal and write down everything good that happened that day. After a while you’ll be looking for good things to happen and focused on the positive stuff in life.

7. Be Your Own Example By…

Planning out your day

Practicing self-accountability and self-discipline

Be solution-oriented

Let your actions speak louder than your words

Do your best

Create your life

And GO.. make yourself proud of yourself.

In short, recognize the problem while finding and focusing on a solution.
Final Pro Tip: For additional business resources go to Marie Forleo’s site. She’s amazingly inspirational and candid.


Nicole Glesinger is a licensed massage therapist in Tucson, AZ. She celebrated her first full year in business as “Arête Massage Tucson” in July of 2013. She is often reminding others about their posture and is currently obsessed with massage, homemade soap and comfort.

She has a knack for focusing on her business and has doubled her treatments since starting her practice a year ago. She wrote this guest blog post for us today and we’re really grateful. Thanks, Nicole!


Comments from original Massamio post:

Great reading! Inspiring! Thank you!  I’ve been a massage therapist for 3 years and I’ve come on leaps and bounds.  The way I see it, I paid my money for massage to have a career as a massage therapist. I didn’t intend to have it as a ‘hobby’ and not to get the education and never actually do it as a job.
It is so important to be self motivated and business savy to succeed in any career, and not least massage therapy.  You are showing how important good personal choices in every aspect of your life will lead to success.  massage therapy   — Posted @ Saturday, November 02, 2013 2:42 PM by Rhonda